“For a human being, the greatest unhappiness is not being able to like oneself” 

3 Main Messages:

1. The water in the well is always the same temperature, it just feels different because of outside conditions

2. We need to discard other people’s tasks

3. Healthy inferiority is comparison with one’s ideal self

“Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We all cover shame with learned behaviour

2. Vulnerability is uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure

3. To be wholehearted is to have courage, compassion and connection

“Perhaps the most important thing we could do with our life and with our leadership was to listen to people so expertly, to give them attention so respectfully they would begin to think for themselves, clearly and afresh.”

3 Main Messages:

1. What we pay attention to grows.

2. Giving everyone a turn increases the intelligence of groups.

3. The quality of your attention determines the quality of other people’s thinking.

“Building a coaching habit will help you and your team reconnect to the work that not only has impact, but has meaning as well.” 

3 Main Messages:

1. Our advice is not as useful as we think it is

2. Simple questions will support others in self-development

3. There are 3 types of coaching: projects, people and patterns

“It is only when you start to identify what makes your culture different from others that you can begin to open a dialogue of sharing, learning, and ultimately understanding. ”

3 Main Messages:

1. We are often blind to our own cultural norms

2. Understanding each other is the key to narrowing cultural differences

3. Naming differences and developing core cultural agreements is crucial

“Not only is it harder for women to acquire leadership positions, but when they do achieve them, they struggle with issues like perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and a need to prove they are worthy of the opportunities.”

5 Main Messages:

1. Women need to build self awareness to increase strengths and learn from weaknesses

2. Women should learn to lean into their own authentic style of leadership

3. It takes courage to be a trailblazer

4. Connectedness helps build courage

5. Leaders need to be purpose-driven and resilient

“Routinely forgetting to accommodate the female body in design - whether medical, technological or architectural - has led to a world that is less hospitable and more dangerous for women to navigate. ”

3 Main Messages:

1. When men are making the decisions, they do not bring a woman’s perspective to the table

2. In many situations it is not that the data is being ignored - it simply doesn’t exist

3. What is frustrating in many countries is a death sentence for women in other places. 

“Sometimes all that’s needed to lift women is to stop pulling them down”

3 Main Messages:

1. To find out the real issues you need to talk to people and get to know them

2. A backward society is one where decisions for women are being made by men

3. Often the surface problem is underpinned by the REAL root problem

“Operating at the edge of your ability, where you make mistakes - makes you smarter”

3 Main Messages:

1. Deep practice involves slowing down and chunking skills

2. Huge success are born when a spark is lit inside by watching someone else setting an example

3. Great teachers car deeply about their students and adapt their techniques as appropriate

“Schools that believe children should get what they deserve respond to poor behaviour differently to schools that believe children should get what they need”

3 Main Messages:

1. Consistency of behaviour and expectations of individual teachers and across schools is necessary to create a safe space.

2. Children respond best to those who show that they genuinely care.

3. The old methods of punishment are outdated and damaging and we need to build restorative practices instead.

“The person sitting at the apex hierarchy is the genius maker, not the genius.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Multipliers build people up and increase intelligence and capacity in others

2. Diminishers act in self interest and think that “really intelligent people are a rare breed.”

3. Even well intentioned leaders can display Accidental Diminisher tendencies

“Habits, as much as memory and reason, are at the roots of how we behave.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Habits are built about the cue-routine-reward routine and can be controlled

2. By changing keystone habits you can change entire company culture

3. There is great power in small community groups

“Some psychologists now consider that general intelligence, curiosity and conscientiousness are together the ‘three pillars’ of academic success; if you lack any one of these you are going to suffer.”

3 Main Messages:

1. There is more than one way to measure intelligence.

2. We can improve learning by spacing lessons and encouraging desirable difficulty.

3. Great teams are built on dissent, not star players.

“We have to invite gratitude into our lives and we have to do it constantly and consistently.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Take responsibility and ownership for your failures as well as your successes

2. Don’t get bogged down with comparisons - water your own grass

3. Life is short, be intentional about how you spend your days

“We listen to views that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard.”

3 Main Messages:

1. “The purpose of learning isn’t to affirm our beliefs; it’s to evolve our beliefs.”

2. The way to find a compromise is all about the dance and the questions we ask

3. It is possible to move from binary ways of thinking and step into the grey middle zone

“I began to understand that self-esteem isn’t everything; it’s just that there’s nothing without it.”

3 Main Messages:

1. For any of us to thrive we need to feel valued - especially as children by our parents and teachers

2. We should rethink the scales that are used to measure intelligence and worth

3. Humans are more connected to the earth and its animals than we realise in modern society

“Early childhood is so important - it’s best to get it right early before the ‘bad habit’ gets a competitive advantage”

3 Main Messages:

1. Brain mapping has shown that the brain rewires itself to compensate for lost function

2. We are able to remap our brains in order to compensate for disabilities and additional needs

3. Childhood mapping is critical but it can be rewired with effort

“We are living an earned life when the choices, risks, and effort we make in each moment align with an overarching purpose in our lives, regardless of the eventual outcome.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We choose our life daily in the small choices we make that add up

2. Life is about achievement, effort, conduct and attendance

3. Sometimes we are allowed to enjoy eating the marshmallow

“I didn’t share these feelings with anyone on my team; they were frazzled enough as it was. Suck it up, I told myself. Tighten your lace. Cut your rations. Keep moving.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Surround yourself with experts; listen to them respect them, acknowledge, praise and thank them

2. As a leader, you are the target of blame for all that you have inherited as well as for situations forced on you

3. He was always focused on helping the vulnerable and allowing everyone the opportunity for a better life

“It doesn’t need to be the leader who has the ideas or even who sees them. The leader just needs to create a culture where ideas come to life.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Leaders need to be the most flexible member of the team

2. “We don’t need leaders with brains or hearts, we need them with both.”

3. The education system needs to change in order to value leadership skills, problem solving and flexibility instead of focusing on exam results.